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You know that you should write in your journal more often when last year's birthday post is still on the front page...

What's happened in the last year? Lots, actually. The kind of major changes that ought to happen over a much longer period of time, but rarely have the good grace to do so. When things happen, they all happen fast.

I started a new job in April. Part time at first, now full time, with a review next month. It's the first genuine "career" job I've had*, and will hopefully become a permanent position in the company after October. I can work on consulting projects that match up well with my thesis, people are genuinely interested in learning things from my research, and the company directors are serious about making me pick up all the various skills I'm missing. I'm doing a lot more client-facing work than I've ever done before. That's confronting and challenging, but ultimately very valuable. It's also completely changed my working week: early starts and late shifts when coordinating things with staff in India have played havoc with my body clock, calibrated as it was to a research student timetable.

Louise and I are expecting a baby. Much sooner than we thought 24 hours ago, in fact: The Day might be more like four weeks away now, instead of six. Louise has been having a rough time of things lately - developing gestational diabetes about a month ago, and starting on insulin today. Early detection and management are great, but the doctors are now making noises about needing a much earlier delivery. Those extra couple of weeks were going to involve a lot of frantic getting ready, which will now have to happen on top of all the other things we have going on at the moment.

Those things have meant that I'm still not finished my thesis. Not surprising, but disappointing. In particular, I needed to get a lot of work done before the baby arrives, but haven't had the energy to do anything at all after finishing work. However, I've been speaking at a few events now, and seem to have found my niche: understanding how networks of people work, to help explain all the fuzzy, hard-to-quantify benefits that go with being well connected. That's the heart of it. The ways people use bits of technology to make that easier are another layer on top - handy to understand for my current line of work, but understanding people is the key.

By this time next year, many parts of my life will probably be unrecogniseable. Without really knowing what to look forward to (or look out for), all I can really do is hold on, and see what happens.

* CSIRO doesn't really count. I thought it did, at the time, but being strung along on years of 6-month contracts isn't a career. It's an abusive relationship that you stick with because you think things will get better - ignoring the obvious signs that you're the only one who wants to make it work...

Date: 2012-09-12 07:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miss-rynn.livejournal.com
If you guys need help with any of the mundane things of life (shopping, cooking, dishes, laundry, that kind of thing) from now onwards (pre- and post- little one) please let Em or I know. We're more than happy to take some of the pressure off of you guys!

Date: 2012-09-12 12:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] umbra-mentis.livejournal.com
This. Very much this.

Date: 2012-09-13 12:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mousebane.livejournal.com
I second this, with offering any kind of help! (and I'm only around the corner when working from home.)

Date: 2012-09-12 09:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kitling.livejournal.com
Happy birthday ben

Good luck with both the work, thesis and baby having.

Date: 2012-09-12 01:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] drwally.livejournal.com
Good luck with the baby! Nobody tells you hard it can be, but also nobody tells you how amazing it can be.

The start is rough. Not gonna lie. Baby has no idea and neither do you. They cry a lot but they sleep a lot. Unfortunately this does not sync with your patterns. So you gotta roll with that.

Take any moment you have to be productive in, if you need to be; ie Thesis.

Everyone has a hard time of it, but everyone seems to cope. There's obviously a reason there are two parents.

And you're right. Hold on! You can do it. Others have. They just lie about how hard it is. You just do it and sometimes you get a chance to get on the webs and bullshit about how hard it is.

It's not really. It just means you shift some time taking care of a tiny thing you love.



Date: 2012-09-13 08:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aeduna.livejournal.com
It's an abusive relationship that you stick with because you think things will get better
god... yes. ow my brain, but yes that is a good description of a lot of employment

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